Diary of a home mover: He wants to move but I don’t
This is a legacy post from the findaproperty.com blog which is now maintained as an archive within the Zoopla blog. Links have been preserved.
Our new blogger Verity Good is blogging about home moving plans. This week: What to do when he wants to move but I don’t.
As we gear up for a flurry of new properties coming on to the market in the new year I am an estate agent’s worse nightmare. I really don’t want to move – ever. I adore our current house which we have lovingly restored over the years. I know it’s not perfect, it’s a townhouse and could be bigger but the central location and our wonderful neighbours (on both sides) more than compensate for the fact that we could use more space (who doesn’t?).
As a couple we have always agreed on every property move up the ladder and both knew intuitively where we did or didn’t want to live – up until now. While searching for property online my husband has found his dream property – his not mine. Architect designed it is brand new – sleek and shiny with every mod con available plus all of the eco features he has always wanted. Reluctantly I went on a viewing – I suspected that once I stepped through the door I would be entranced, but I still need to be persuaded.
By moving we would be upsizing and down spending so it is the sensible thing to do but the thought of relocating a couple of miles north to a new area fills me with dread. I know I am totally irrational about this but having spent the last ten years in our current home seems to have made me paralysed by the thought of change, is this normal?
Sometimes watching Phil and Kirstie referee bickering house buying couples you do wonder what it is these people have in common? How could they possibly differ so much on where it is they want to live? But now I can sympathize, it is all to do with coping with change. In this current climate the temptation is to draw the curtains and hunker down. But maybe a new year and a new home has its appeal? Our kids would go to the same schools and friends and family will still be reasonably close by so what am I worried about? One step at a time and let’s see if we can sell first. Time to call some estate agents?